Monogamy And Sex

Is Monogamy Actually Good For Your Sex Life


Sexual Problems

When people try to figure out what is wrong with their sex life, they may often go to a doctor, or a therapist, to find out what is wrong. They may wonder why it is that they can no longer make love to their partner, as they once did. Why they are having sexual problems. Whether they have been married for just a few months, or several years, problems may develop out of nowhere. You may soon not be able to have a sex life at all because you simply can’t get aroused. However, one question that many people hesitate in asking is whether or not monogamy is actually a proper formula for having a good sex life and in some cases, it may actually be detrimental.

Why People Get Married

To understand the root of this problem, you must consider statistically why people tend to get married. It can be something that is out of convenience or necessity. Of course, there are people who actually fall in love and have the financial means to live a life together in happiness. But sometimes people need to be together because they have a child on the way, or they simply see that it is their only way out of a situation, that they otherwise would not be able to escape. This could be someone living at home who cannot move out unless they are able to marry someone who has a full-time job. It could be that they actually do love this person. However, that is often not enough to cement a solid relationship, even if the relationship was primarily physical to begin with, because there is no connection between the two people.

Can Monogamy Be Detrimental To Your Sex Life

Couples And MarriageMany psychologists will recommend that couples having sexual problems try to liven things up, or even travel to different locations in order to improve their sexual lives. Sometimes they will dress up in costumes, mimicking other people, and this can sometimes help because it breaks the pattern. This pattern that we speak of revolves around how you relate to the other person and all of the experiences that you have had together. Unfortunately, many times the experiences that we have with people can be primarily negative in regard to arguments, lack of money, or getting married for the wrong reasons. All of this negativity will be connected to the way they interact in bed and if there is any resentment at all, it will definitely be difficult to get aroused. In contrast, people who are single often have no problem with their sex life at all because it is always someone different and therefore there is no baggage included in the short term relationships that often lead to some of the best sex they have ever had.

Although it is not recommended for every married couple having sex problems to simply find someone else to have sex with, the negative emotions and memories associated with this relationship may be at the root of the problem. Sex is both a physical and mental activity, mixed with raw emotion and sometimes it’s just a good idea to take a break from the person you are with, in order to banish these negative feelings, so that you can have a stimulating, fulfilling love life once again.